This is the picture that started it all and the comment that it received here on this blog:
“Hi Angie. You seem to be a very talented charming lady. Your site is very nice. I think your dark eye makeup sends a little bit of a mixed message. I'm not saying that you aren't pretty--you are so pretty! Nice blog! Cute post.”
This comment has inspired some awesome, funny comments and emails both from my "real life" friends and my online friends.
At first I laughed at the "mixed message comment", but then I was like, HEY! What exactly does that mean? Are people really so judgmental as to make assumtions based on what kind of make-up someone wears? I have good ideas, easy recipes, I’m a nice religious gal… How much does the way you dress affect how people think about you, even in blogland? And what message is my make-up sending?
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE vintage and girly and pink, but you rarely see that in the way that I dress. I do wear a lot of vintage jewelry, but clothes-wise I wear what is flattering on me. I have big brown eyes, which look washed out without black eyeliner. I’m self-conscious about my tummy and hips, so I like to wear black a lot. I have a larger chest, which means quite often my tops are tight through the chest area. I rarely wear jeans. I’m always in heels; I own two pair of shoes with skulls on them (I call them my pirate shoes…haha) and I own two pair of camo shoes that I wear a lot, even with my dress pants and white shirt at work. I always dress modestly. I have a style that is very much my own.
Just because you are a mom and a wife and a homemaker doesn’t mean you can’t look hot. I know I am not a Barbie doll, but I do get up every day and put on makeup. I dress nicely almost all the time. I take care of my hair and baby my skin. I like to have my nails painted and yes they are painted black right now. I am not “high maintenance”. I spoil myself on a few things, like buying quality hair products and make-up, but over all I’m an extremely frugal person. All my clothes were extremely low clearances or thrift store finds, so I don’t feel bad about having a lot of them. It doesn’t cost a lot to look nice. It doesn’t take any longer to put on a pair of nice pants than it does to put on a pair of jeans or yoga pants.
What is wrong with not wanting to conform to what a “homemaker” is supposed to look like in these modern times. When I think of today's homemakers I often think frazzled and stressed out and yes, I am those things, but I don’t want to look it! I know women that are still in their pajamas when their husband gets home from work on a regular basis or that don’t feel like they have time for makeup or even showers because they have little kids. Take the time. You will feel much better about yourself as a women and your husband will appreciate it! You are more than just a mom and a homemaker. You are a smokin’ hot chick, so show it!
I look at the vintage homemakers of days gone by and I think how sad it is that we lost that way of life. I cook wearing my vintage aprons and high-heels and jewelry… I dress up when we go out, even just to the movies. If you look nice on the outside, it helps a lot on the inside.
I don’t think it’s vanity and I don’t think it’s narcissism. It’s taking care of yourself and feeling good about yourself and showing your husband that he is still worth getting dressed up for and showing yourself that you are more than just “mom”. I’d like to end with a quote by Brigham Young. I love this quote! I’ve mentioned it before, but here it is again.